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Posted July 30, Reviewed by Jessica Schrader. Few activities are as exciting as sex. There is a lot of biology that makes sex so interesting. The survival of the species depends on it. And yet, some people lose interest in having sex with their partner. How can something so exciting get so boring?
However, there are plenty of people who are still interested in sex in general, but much less interested in being sexual with their partner. They still have sexual thoughts and fantasiesthey still respond to sexual stimuli like a racy scene in a movieand perhaps even still masturbate regularly, but they feel bored or avoid sex with their partner. Usually the first reason long-term couples give for fading desire is familiarity—excitement requires some amount of novelty and uncertainty, both of which fall to the unstoppable march of familiarity. Yes, but no. If you feel that you know your partner too well, then perhaps you have fallen into a rut of just doing all that same old stuff.
More of the same can indeed lose its spark. What can you do to make them more comfortable to share? You may want to ask them in a moment of passion such as it is if there is anything else that turns them on, or that they would like to try.
You may also want to have a discussion when fully dressed, explaining that you are happy overall with this relationship if truebut that you would like to have a more fiery sex life, then ask what would make things more exciting for your partner. And it will probably be at least a little awkward, but hang in there.
Most likely, there is some form of fear of judgment at work here.
However, as Justin Lehmiller, Ph. Or perhaps just playing with them as fantasies with your partner. People continue to evolve over the years and decades hopefullyso your relationship should probably also evolve, too, including sexually. One of the advantages that long-term couples have over the newbies is that they are often more secure in themselves and also in each other.
It can feel safer to make a vulnerable disclosure, so established couples can actually be much kinkier, if they would like to be. Sometimes the culprit has nothing to do with sex, but shows up there nonetheless. What price are you paying by leaving this unresolved? What can you do to try to make it into a more productive conversation?
What could you ask your partner to do to make it into a more productive conversation? Without selling out your integrity, I would also encourage you to sometimes put unresolved disagreements aside temporarily and make a point of connecting with your partner, sexually and otherwise.
In fact, some positive connection can boost good will towards each other and make it easier to do the hard work of problem resolution. By ignoring the restorative effects of occasional positive connection, you starve yourself of the crucial emotional fuel that enables you to hash out the really difficult matters. You can have a happy relationship without sex, but doing what it takes to keep your sex life hot will make your relationship great.
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