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Every person has felt the isolation of the pandemic, but none more than my single friends. Mark is as introverted as they come and had initially thought that the pandemic was the best thing that ever happened to him. But after nine months of isolation, even he was on a swipe-a-thon to try and find a quarantine buddy before winter hits.
Just okay. He pretty much said that about the other three dates too until they ghosted him. I get it. It must be so incredibly hard to not even be in the same physical space as another human while everyone is paired up in their quarantine pods. Mundane things like meals become reminders of isolation and the days blend together as you have no one to share it with. But remember, extreme loneliness by itself is not a good reason to start a relationship. Every bad date and every failed connection comes at a cost. That cost is emotional energy.
For you to have a chance of having a meaningful relationship or even a meaningful casual connection, you need to at least start with a little emotional energy in the tank.
Or are you dating for all the wrong reasons? So, how do you know if you are ready to date? You just have to ask yourself this question:. Am I approaching dating with a scarcity mindset or an abundance mindset? The term scarcity and abundance mindsets were described by Stephen Covey in one of the best selling self-help books ever — The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
It describes the story our minds create around any given situation. You are in a scarcity mindset if you feel like things are never enough. You are not enough. Things never work out in your favor. You feel as if the universe is conspiring against you. When you think about dating — you feel frustrated, anxious, and overwhelmed. Dating feels like a ride you have to get on to get to a destination, but not one you enjoy at all. You find the process emotionally draining. Another clear is that you feel sad when you hear about someone else getting happily paired up.
It should definitely not make you feel bad. If you are coming from a place where you are dating to fill a void, that is not a healthy place to launch any kind of connection — casual or otherwise.
When you need something, you will come across as needy. Instead of resolving your loneliness, you will create opportunities for you to be rejected. When you are in a scarcity mindset, you will also find yourself getting easily excited by any glimmer of a connection way before reality substantiates it. A healthy mindset avoids that as your emotional attachment matches that of your partner.
You believe less and less that you will ever be able to find a healthy relationship. The good news is — there is an alternative. You are not doomed to live in the land of the lacking. The abundance mindset is the feeling that the world is full of possibilities. Your life is full of good relationships, passion, and things to look forward to. When you think about dating — you feel desired, confident, and relaxed. You enjoy the process of getting to know people and are not worried about the outcome.
You find the process of dating fun and emotionally energizing. When you are in an abundance mindset, this is exactly what will shine through. They will want to spend time with you simply because there is so much of you to know. It will actually reduce your chances of actually finding what you want. We need to learn to master our minds and feelings, or we will forever be their slave. Imagine that dating is like trying to hold a butterfly in the palm of your hands.
If you are anxious and hold on to it too tightly, you will likely crush it. Instead, if you approach it with relaxed curiosity and awe, lightly cupping your hands, the butterfly is more likely to want to stay. It always works, it works every time, with every person. If you want to learn to connect more authentically, subscribe to my mailing list to get regular tips and 5 questions to instantly create intimacy. Here to help you explore connection — with others and yourself. in. Felicia C. Are You Really Ready to Date? May Pang Follow. Scarcity Mindset You are in a scarcity mindset if you feel like things are never enough.
I just really want someone to hold me. Anyone will do, really. Everything will be better if I can just find someone to love me.
I just had an awful breakup and I need someone to distract me from the pain. I feel so emotionally flat and numb. Things never work out for me. All the good ones are taken. I Love You Relationships now. I Love You Follow. Written by May Pang Follow. More From Medium. There is more to it. Ishaan Dhankani. How to Handle Imbalance in a New Relationship. Bonnie Barton. Dear future husband…. The Gottman Institute in P. I Love You. The Power of Being Alone. Simarjot Singh Judge.
An encounter with a snake. Vijay K Mishra.I really need a date
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