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Go on, be honest. Which of the following images do you think the media is more likely to use to accompany an article on online dating? We are all living decades longer than we once did, and are staying fitter, healthier and in some cases, friskier further into our wisdom years than ever before. At the same time, more older adults over 55 find themselves single and looking, either through divorce or the tragic loss of a husband or wife they loved for many years. This means that there are more seniors and baby boomers than ever before looking for some companionship to fill the void of their prior partner.
Because no matter how old you get, one thing about human nature never changes: nobody likes feeling lonely. Young people are incredibly age-prejudiced, to such an extent that age is one of the most important filter criteria used to find a match on online dating sites. Just check out the image to the right from Match. This scenario is not just on Match. The filtering mechanisms on these dating sites similarly emphasize the importance age takes in the minds of young match-seekers, with all users asked to specify the age range they are seeking, with many choosing ridiculously narrow ranges e.
Far more important is what shape you are in, how healthy you are, and what activities you can do. Adults over 55 are far more flexible in their approach to companionship. Part of this is probably the wisdom that comes with age, but even more ificant is an essential truth about how age works. Once you get into your fifties and beyond, the actual of your age becomes less and less ificant.
Far more important is what shape you are in, how healthy you are, what activities you can do. On the other hand, the year old woman who has had past back problems and likes to stay in with wine and movies might be a great match for that year-old man. The other stunning aspect of dating for young people is how much looks matter. The hottest online dating app for young people today is Tinderwhich proudly claims to be matching over million love-seekers daily. Take a quick look at the Tinder user interface to the left.
What stands out as the most important aspect of a person when determining if you may be a potential match? With Tinder and pretty much every other online dating system on the market today the photo is all-important. This reinforces a message that young people get hammered with on a daily basis: nothing matters more than how you look.
Maybe this is because older adults are wise enough to know that looks have very little to do with whether someone is going to be a kind, loving and caring companion. One thing we have been struck with has been the important role that dinner plays in the social or not-so-social lives of most older adults. Nobody likes the idea of spending years cooking for themselves and eating alone. And always being the lone single person when your married friends want to catch up for dinner starts to become a little tiresome. More than any other activity, dinner is where older adults feel the isolation of being alone most strongly.
This is why, for most older adults, a dinner date is the most important first step towards finding companionship.
This makes quite a comparison to how many young people organize their first dates, which usually involve meeting up in a bar. The fundamental premise behind most dating services for young people is that the ultimate goal is to find love and marriage.
While this is true for some older adults, it is far from universal. Many seniors really are looking for companionship and nothing more. Some are seeking someone to have dinner with, some are looking for someone to travel with them, others are looking for someone to share their favorite activities. For many people at this stage, that is enough.
There is an entire spectrum of dating that goes far beyond the marriage-oriented online dating services available today. Many older adults have multiple needs for companionship. Sure, some are focused only on finding that single life partner who will give them a loving relationship for the next few decades.
But just as many are actually seeking multiple companions to fit in with their varied social needs. A recognition that most older adults are prepared for the fact that no single person may be the solution to all their social needs, that they may be just as well served by multiple companions. Far more than their younger counterparts, older adults feel much more comfortable evaluating a potential match in the real world instead of online.
All the Millennials out there are shaking their he, wondering why on earth anyone would like to talk on the phone when they can instant message instead. And that sums up the generation gap in a nutshell … recent studies show that young adults are three times as likely to prefer to text than talk via the phone, the complete opposite of their older counterparts.
One of our favorite lines comes from a Huffington Post article on this very subject :. Ask your grandparents about it. Yes, trust is important to everyone, no matter how old they are. But for a retiree on a fixed income, who has heard countless stories of peers being taken advantage of both online and in the real world, trust takes on a special ificance. Or, as we have been often asked by older women considering prospective male companions: are they truly looking for companionship, or someone to nurse them through their later years?
Stitch Update: the more we talk to the people registering for Stitch, the more we have come to understand how important the issue of trust is and how absent it is in most online dating sites today. One thing that many dating services have in common is using fancy algorithms to help you find a partner based on a dazzling array of filters you provide them.
Younger people can be zealous about the rules they impose on potential partners. The profile selection from Match. The online dating sites which market themselves as being for 55 and older are simply re-branded versions of dating sites for younger adults. This blog is spot on. Keep it up! Thanks Ric! Age does matter…a lot! When I was 51, I married my year-old Knight in Shining Armor and immediately had a midlife pregnancy scare. We lived incredibly happily ever after for 22 years until he died 2 years ago. They explain by saying they are younger than their age.
What does that even mean?!? Before investing another dime, I need to know how and if Stitch will address the mismatch? Do you have a hidden stash of active year old men who are seeking year-old companions? Or is it something information and eduction can address? Well said Jasmine! Particularly for those seeking companionship rather than romance … I have many friends in the Stitch community who are 20 years my senior, while there is no way I could have said the same when I was Older men who want to find a young woman have plenty of other sites they can go to who cater to that.
The ones who are attracted to Stitch us because they are looking for real people, shared interests and conversation just as much as any physical attraction. Thanks, Andrew! Good grief! You are incorrect. I am attractive, 65, with health problems. All the men have health problems. My husband had prostate cancer. Because he is 73 ,impotent, every lady in FL. It seems, Andrew, that Stitch is catering to older women who are looking for younger men.
And, I see a lot of that on the dating sites I am on. Many older women looking for younger men — but reality is that most men are not looking for older women. Most men still want a younger woman — maybe 5 years younger, and someone that is at least somewhat physically attractive.
And, while companionship is great, you can a local social club for companionship. They are everywhere. But then, I had many women ask me why I was not interested in marriage? They all said they would not date someone who is not open to marriage because their ultimate end goal was marriage and commitment. She is now in the world, not my home. I put my life on hold so long.
I have very long black hair, green eyes, attractive and a decent weight. Have aged gracefully though no one believes me when I say I just turned I have nothing to hide, I look just like my most recent picture Sept Tell me more about what makes this a genuine site for older adults seeking companionship without commitment, willing to share thoughts and maybe have things in common to share. Thank you. There are a of men like me whom are seeking companionship.
By that I man firstly friendship to engage in being together for conversations of many topics, having visits to local places of interest, walking at interesting, venues, having a meal together even with friends. However it has to be on a pleasant and positive mindset and not to unload baggage of the past. Surely fun and happiness should be foremost in our seventies. Hi Tom. I agree with your entire approach. It takes time to develop a friendship and determine if basics are common. I am interested in omfortable mutual conversational in which I can learn, perhaps teach and have fun.
I just ran into this site. Where do you live? I so agree with you, I want Fun in my seventies. That is The Best medicine. This is my first time on talking to someone. I am looking for a female friend with whome I can share some time with for trips to the cinema or out for a meal age around eighty must be in a area between blackpool and Preston lancs.
Age absolutely does matter! When my ex-husband about 5 years younger left for a woman 20 years younger than myself, you can bet that was upsetting and revealing. At 60 when I was first divorced, online dating worked pretty well. I noticed after 65, even though I myself am VERY fit, I have a great financial picture and also a 2nd home — online dating dried up to nothing and I finally opted out.
These men all look for women years younger. And meanwhile my ex lives in our old house he bought me out of and also a fabulous condo on the Florida coast. You are so right! Life is not fair to mature women…so what girl? Get out their and fight the good fight. You do the best you can…i mean stay in all the time? Why in the hell do women or men have such a hard time eating alone at a restaurant? I never got that. I have dined alone with a boy and without more times. Take a book or paper or planner so you have something to do if your insecure.
I am also quite comfortable being with others including a man. Stay open minded as you have the choice to in a group or not. Have fun. You sound smart.
Hang in there. No one ever said life would be fair. No one and it is not. Unfortunately it is especially not fair for the mature female. Anyone that says different has to have blinders on! Complete idiots. Sorry for being mean but it is true.37 looking for older woman
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I'm 25, and I talked to 3 single women in their 50s about what it's like to use dating apps like Tinder and Bumble. Their experiences surprised me